It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of many bumble dates.
Not Austen’s original words but she was a gal before her time and I am sure the Bennet girls (Lydia in particular) would have spent many an evening in front of a roaring fire with a bottle of wine thinking of all the inventive ways to capture the open shirted, Mr Darcy had they been born 200 years later.
It is December 1st which means I am now allowed to be excited about Christmas! The festive coffees and big fluffy jumpers and coats, the lights and the carol services, I am ready for it all. I am also ready to reread one of my favourite novels and fall in love once again with the witty, bright Elizabeth Bennet; a total proto-feminist badass, and Mr. Darcy who answers every “Convert a jerk into the perfect boyfriend with true love” fantasy we’ve ever had.
It is one of my favourite past times- usually when work is slow or I have had too much caffeine so I am sat up in bed at 3 am writing absolute nonsense- to equate the men in Pride and Prejudice to the man boys you meet at university.
You meet Mr Bingley at a predrinks during fresher’s week when he turns up at your flat with alcohol that isn’t Tesco’s own brand and a Louis Theroux tee. As the night wares on he explains to you that he has already decided he is going to write his dissertation on the Paris Commune and the merits of Henri de Saint-Simon (in short you fall in love with him instantly). You share a sociology seminar and he always ensures that he gets in that his parents grew up on a council estate somewhere in the north, as if he is some sort of rags to riches prince but he means well. This is Bingley’s problem, he is a really nice spineless guy. Like a Labrador, everything is new and exciting to him and whilst he is super ‘woke’ he doesn’t understand why you can’t swing a three week skiing trip in Portes du Soleil at the drop of a hat. Because whilst he may not wear his wealth like the Mr Darcy’s of the world, he is still extremely rich and he might be painfully lovely but his two sisters are not. You eventually decide that his snobby family are a deal breaker and his faultless optimism becomes a bit much. You don’t need anyone telling you that the capitalist state will fall as they sit there sipping a Starbucks coffee.
We all know a Mr Collins and whilst most of us didn’t date him (thank god) university campuses are crawling with them. He lives in your flat block and turns up at your door one day asking if he can borrow some milk. In reality his mum stocked his fridge up before she left, this is just his in. Over the coming months, you and your flat aren’t quite sure how, but he has wormed his way in. He is always there! Someone breaks up with their boyfriend- enter Mr Collins. Someone is homesick- there’s a knock at the door. You never see him leave the flat block so there are questions as to how he is passing his degree and if he is even a student at all. In short, he is an idiotic pest that you will try to shake for the four years you are at university and he will still slide into your DM’s occasionally after you gradate. Word of warning: do not encourage Mr Collins in any way, shape or form! He doesn’t need it!
You find Mr Wickham at the bar on your uni sports night. When I say find, he walks over to you, topless and drops the cheesiest one liner you’ve ever heard. You hate yourself but it works. You don’t know if it is the 90’s pop or that toga that he wears so well but you think he might be the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to you. He is above any night out that doesn’t involve taking copious amounts of coke and you don’t really have conversations, he just tells you how his sport team is doing and then you make out…sexy. He is completely gorgeous and knows it and his family are so rich that he can afford this coke habit well into his thirties before he realises he should probably settle down and get a job. A master of negging, he is aloof, he doesn’t message you back and he won’t introduce you to his friends which in a backwards way makes you want him more. Yet when you’re with him he makes you feel so good you keep coming back. No one settles down with Wickham, you might think you have but chances are so do about seven other girls. It won’t end well and in the throes of you finally waking up and realising you don’t need this dick pirate anymore he reveals himself to be the misogynist you always suspected. Run girl!
You meet Mr Darcy post Wickham. You are done, you’ve been burnt before and you’re not ready to entertain any more floppy haired, little boy crap. You have resigned yourself to the fact that you are going to live with your super successful friends and cats. Then you spot Darcy in your university coffee shop. He is everything Wickham was- hot, brooding, rich. Yet you are not the little spring chicken that Wickham met in the student union. You have barriers that have gone up and whilst you have already planned out yours and Darcy’s wedding before you’ve even said hello, you are not about to make the same mistake again. Only you do… just slower. Instead of falling at Darcy’s feet the first time he takes you out for drinks and doesn’t have a battle with you when you insist on paying half you play it cooler. The he saves your paralytic flatmate from a predator in a club (or your sister from a pompous, lying weasel whatever floats your boat) you realise he might not be so awful after all. You also don’t want to give him up because his name is so fancy, it makes you fancy by association (Fitzwilliam Darcy, come on) like you’re grown or something.
So there it is. A long thought out, Pride and Prejudice 3 am mind vomit. But I don’t think bumble, one night stands and Netflix have made dating any more complicated. If anything at least we can spot the Wickham/ Collins and the Darcy/ Bingley’s from a mile off now. Is there anything Austen didn’t know?