There is a lot you can learn from Friends; coffee is one of life’s bare necessities, everyone has a lobster and the only way to move a sofa is to PIVOT. We have all sat there with our own friends deciding who is a ‘Ross’ and who is such a ‘Phoebe’ and this actually holds meaning. I have always considered myself to be a bit of a Chandler- correct me if you think I am wrong. Yet it is Rachel that can teach you most about becoming a grown up.
I know what you’re thinking how could the over privileged, daddy’s girl of the gang teach anyone anything about real life. But trust me, Rachel knows all. She starts the series with the harshest wakeup call (you know when she didn’t marry Barry and retire to suburbia) and it is for this reason that it is in Rachel that I trust, and so should you.
Rachel learned the hard way that being a grown up is NOT easy. Yet she picks herself up at the start of series one, makes something of herself and before she knows it she’s working at Ralph Lauren and has Ross in tow (with a few minor complications along the way). She is living her best life and we should follow.
Here are all the things Rachel Green taught me about being an adult…
No matter how old and grown you think you are, sometimes you just need your mum and dad. Rachel proves that although she cut financial ties with her parents, no matter how together you think you are sometimes calling home can make a situation 100% better. Granted, your mum quitting her life to move in with you because you’re scared of becoming a parent is a bit extra but your parents get that the fear of messing up is a real thing, so use them.
A new look can do a lot for you. It would be so wrong to talk about Rachel’s imparted wisdom without mentioning ‘The Rachel’. Becoming THE hair cut of the 90’s ‘The Rachel’ proved that a change in look really isn’t as scary as we think it is and we should all be more open to it.
Working your way up in life is really hard. Rachel’s personal stylist job saw her help an 80 year old woman try on a thong that she didn’t go on to buy and then the train wreck that was Joshua happened. But she was patient, she worked hard and she persevere, something I know I could learn.
Money doesn’t grow on trees and tax really sucks. One of my favourite Rachel moments is when she realises FICA took money out of her first big girl paycheck, I am there for you girl. We all know that taxes exist and what their purpose is but it doesn’t make it hurt any less and stop you wondering what the point of working is at all.
You have to celebrate the small victories. Rachel learned how to do her own laundry, something we have all had to do at some point. But in the process she proved my suspicion that it is really scary putting your favourite top in the wash not knowing if it is going to come out shrunk or if the colour will have run and dealing with people in public places is awkward and they can be mean. Yet Rachel semi successfully washed her clothes and won the argument with the scary, small woman by jumping in the kart and standing her ground. Two adult points!
Dating a co- worker is not a good idea, even if it is Tag. So Tag…He literally embodies that wholesome, all American thing that Hollister really strive for. I don’t care who you are, there is no denying he is a beautiful beautiful man. From the sexy review which found its way to her boss’s desk to the slightly awkward break up, Tag and Rachel’s relationship was not the worst but it probably wasn’t worth it either.
Saying goodbye is really freaking depressing. During the episode where Rachel leaves for Paris I cried, not a small passing of tears, full Kim Kardashian losing her earing in the ocean bawling. It was too much for me, why was she moving on in life? It reminded me that whilst the next adventure/ job might be really exciting it doesn’t take away from how horrible it is to leave people behind.
You don’t have to like everyone. Rachel is sassy and kind of mean, which is probably why I like her so much. But when she leaves Barry at the alter and queen of all fake friends, Mindy goes on their honeymoon with him Rachel knows to cut her off. In the same breath, when she finds Monica and Rachel adopts everyone else as her friend in the process she has found friends for life. It is okay to cut people off who only bring negativity to your life and it might be a good thing call that old friend and go for a coffee.
Getting off ‘that’ plane is really hard, but it also might be the best decision you have ever made. Rachel and Ross marked THE on/off relationship of the 90’s. It was painful to watch. Were they on a break? Was it a good thing that Mr Ross and Mrs Rachel got so smashed in Vegas that they tied the knot? Is Ross really fine? Yet in the end Rachel does what is right for her, gets off the plane and goes and gets her lobster. There isn’t always a plane and it isn’t always for love but I know I am terrible for playing it safe in the fear that it won’t pay off. Sometimes putting yourself out there and doing the thing that defies all sensible logic is the best thing you can do.